The Tutoring Blog
Welcome to The Tutoring Blog. This is my opportunity to share with you the many resources I have found useful as I have worked with my students. I realized that when I send out emails to the parents of my students with lots of information, that information often gets lost in the hurly-burly of life. Now with a link to the blog, you can visit at any time and stay in touch with the latest resources. So let's get started.
Monday, May 17, 2021
Sunday, April 18, 2021
What to Do in the Latest Lockdown?
Things to Do to Make the Latest Lockdown Pass Quickly
1. Use a calendar
2. Create an activities jar
3. The meals
4. The Job Jar
5. Map and explore your neighbourhood
6. Take a camera with you on your walks/biking
7. Set one 'me' goal per week
8. Make a Looking Forward list: What are you most anticipating doing?
9. Make a list of the positives from this past year+:
10. Finally, remember gratitude
Monday, January 25, 2021
The Delicate Balance of Rewards and Consequences
- Spend time together - unstructured 15 minutes each day, doing what she wants to do. No devices for either of you. Just one-on-one. It could be reading with each other, to each other; telling jokes; going for a walk. Maybe make a list of all the things your child wants to do and put them in a jar to pull out. That's your first one-on-one time - making a list. Throw in something that you'd like to do with your child that maybe she hasn't thought of yet.
- Praise (legitimately and specifically) often. At the beginning, you might really have to look, but it can start small. "I like the way you concentrated on trying to spell that word." "I like the way you walked quietly from the kitchen to your bedroom." I used to put 10 tokens in my pocket to remind me to praise or recognize a certain student who really needed that positive reinforcement. When I did, I transferred that token to the other pocket and kept going until all 10 were in the other pocket.
- For more information on specific praise, see this site called MINDSET: THE NEW PSYCHOLOGY OF SUCCESS
- and click here for a 'cheat sheet' on specific prompts (see the end of this post for what it looks like)
- Reinforce (especially for little ones) with small tokens - stars on a chart; tokens in a chair. Help your child decide what he'd like to earn recognition for. Then together, decide how many stars have to be earned for a bigger reward (a trip to Dairy Queen, a playdate, and so on). Surprise your child by adding a star when he's not looking. And never take away a token or a star. If he legitimately earned it, he gets to keep it.
- Caveat: beware of the "If I do this, do I get a star?" motivation. If that happens, time to look for another support system.
- Be direct. Don't ask; tell. Avoid "Would you mind?" or finishing your 'tell' with "Okay?" The directive should be clear, short, and pithy (to the point). "Pick up your school bag and put it away now please."
- Use eye contact. It's harder to ignore someone when you must look them in the face. “This can be done with humor,” says child psychologist Douglas Riley. “I use the phrase, ‘Give me your eyeballs.'”
- Be consistent with consequences. If a child misbehaves five (5) times but receives consequences for only three (3), it's not hard for them to figure out the odds of getting away with something. It reminds me of the old story about Freddie and Irene playing outside. Irene's mother calls her for dinner. When she ignores several calls, Freddies asks why she isn't going in. Irene responds that her mother had only called four (4) times. "When she gets to six, I know she's serious."
- Depending on the nature of the behaviour, get your child's input on what the consequence should be. Often his or her suggested consequence might be more on point than the one you were thinking of.
Tuesday, January 12, 2021
As Ontario moves into its next phrase of online learning, check the resource entitled Learning Strategies that Work Now with many ideas for both parents and teachers supporting kids learning remotely.
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The article comes from ADDitude magazine. Please note that although the article is subtitled Tools and best practices that work for students with ADHD learning at school and/at home, the ideas can be used by all and for all.
Gerrie
Monday, January 4, 2021
Advice for remote learning
Some Tips for Remote Learning
If you are a teacher or a parent reading this, please feel free to share and acknowledge the source as The Globe and Mail
To all of you, my heart goes out to you as you struggle with the challenges of this way of learning that none of us anticipated. I'm reading the frustrations from all sectors on Twitter.
Here's my two-cents worth. We're all in this together. Every single teacher I worked with wanted the very best for her/his students. None of us have done this before. Cut all of those on the front lines some slack (read what you will into this). Please, please, if you have concerns from either side of the screen, reach out. There's a human being on the other side. From the teacher's perspective, receiving a simple note of thanks or encouragement goes a long way. Parents want to hear that too.
I hope there is something in this post that will help. Good luck to all of you.
The Globe and Mail interviewed teachers and parents from across the country. I will summarize the tips from both parents and teachers. If you want the full article, let me know and I will share with you.
Advice for remote learning from those with experience by Dave McGinn and Caroline Alphonso
(Adapted from Nancy Wilson-Blackley, Grade 4 teacher, Halton District School Board, Ontario):
- Have a really good spot to sit and learn; headphones are great to block out the sounds if the space is shared with others. (This is not easy)
- Sit at a table or a desk so kids feel like they're in school rather than lounging around.
- If the bedroom is the new school room, remove toys that might prove distracting.
- A dollar-store whiteboard is a great tool, especially for math problems; kids just have to hold up the whiteboard to show their work.
- Don't let the technology make you frustrated. Kids can send a note in the Chat space to say they're going to reset their computer.
- Let the teacher know it's not working. They can share their screen and show the students what they need to do.
- Some children who are easily distracted need their own space. Keep those fidget toys handy. A chair that spins give the kid the option of still wiggling.
- When school is over, close up that 'office space'; don't go back there. That's the space you go for school and when it's over, you leave it, just as you would 'normal' school (whatever that is these days).
- The morning routine is important. Go for a walk around the neighbourhood after breakfast. If before you raced to get to school, now you're racing to get home to get to school.
- Use the recesses to have the kids run around the block or do something active. Time them to beat the time from the day before.
- Charge all devices the night before.
- Set alarms to designate breaks and sign-in times.
- Set the alarms for 5 minutes BEFORE the sign-in because it always takes longer than you think!
- Choose your battles. Reach out to the teacher if you're really concerned about something.
- Ask for help in understanding the expectations.
- Be careful about pointing fingers. Keep your concerns about how things are going to yourself.
- Break time is 100 per cent no-screen time.
- Make it physical as often as possible, but if not, just something that doesn't involve a screen.
- Stay out of the classroom! This is hard when everyone is within earshot but you're not supposed to be in school!
- Keep your kids hydrated and fed.
Saturday, January 2, 2021
Being on time - with a screen!
Happy New Year. It seems ages since I posted anything - actually because it has been ages! I was really hoping I wouldn't be writing anything about coping with virtual schooling again, but here we are.
- Use weekly and monthly calendars to plan. See my post The Executive Functions of Time Management
- "Calendars offer a multisensory learning opportunity: They are a visual record of activities that work kinesthetically as you write down and cross off activities, and it prompts auditory reinforcement as you talk about the day’s events."
- Use analogue clocks rather than digital clocks.
- "Digital clocks present time as a static present-tense thing, greatly affecting kids’ ability to conceive of and gauge time. Analog clocks show that time moves — and let a child know where she stands in relation to the rest of the hour or the rest of the day. We need to reintroduce analog clocks so children can “see” time and learn to place events in context."
- Set a timer to assist with transitions (you have five minutes to finish your work) and work completion. Use an alarm signal when the time is up.
- Create a daily to-do list and cross off those tasks that have been finished, even minor ones like completing a chore. There's nothing like crossing something off a list to feel that you've made progress.
- Estimating the time to complete something is hard for many of us. (I thought this post would only take 30 minutes; fancy that - it's over an hour now!)
- Practise estimating how much time any one assignment will take and then add that time frame to the calendar using different coloured pens for each subject area.
- "Make a game out of predicting, timing, and checking your student’s estimates of the time needed for various activities. How long does it take to walk from the kitchen to the mail box? To complete an assignment?"
- Setting priorities is a life skill. .
- "First, figure out together how many homework assignments she has tonight, which are due tomorrow, and which of those is most challenging. Encourage her to start the most difficult homework first, when she’s fresh and energetic. Consistent use of the calendar/planner will help your child learn how to prioritize and manage assignments."
Thursday, September 10, 2020
How can we make the separation between kids and their grandparents easier?
- The Globe and Mail (Ontario Edition)
- SARAH ROSENSWEET
(Sarah Rosensweet is a Parenting coach who lives in Toronto with her husband and three children, ages 12, 15 and 18)
Kerry Byrne of The Long Distance Grandparent website suggests weekly virtual ‘grand dates’ to help everyone stay connected
The question
My kids have been seeing one set of their grandparents a bit this summer, but when school starts again, we don’t want to take any chances. And they haven’t seen their other grandparents since the winter since we couldn’t travel to see them this summer. I’m really sad for all of us. Do you have any tips for how we can make this separation easier?
The answer
The loss of time and connection has been so difficult for grandparents and grandchildren alike but there are so many ways to ease the separation. I reached out to Kerry Byrne of The Long Distance Grandparent website for some suggestions to help everyone stay connected.
Schedule a weekly “grand date.” Byrne suggests that we plan virtual visits. “Connect every week on a Saturday morning or for Sunday dinner so kids know what to expect. Invite both sets of grandparents to join at the same time to lessen the video fatigue.”
Prepare and Play: Preparing for video chats increases the chances your children will want to return to the grand date. Byrne suggests themed dinners together such as Taco Tuesdays or Sundae Sundays.
Another idea is to play games that serve the dual purpose of fun and learning about one another. For example, have a virtual quiz night with the topic of the quiz about different family members. Byrne suggests, “Have everyone come up with five questions and include active questions for younger children.
Ask questions such as ‘Has anyone in the family ever broken a bone?’, ‘Can Mommy touch her tongue to her nose?’, ‘If Grandma could eat one thing for the rest of her life, what would it be?’ ‘Can Grandpa pat his head and rub his belly at the same time?’ This can be played in a True or False format for younger kids.”
Batch-connect your snail mail: Similar to batch-cooking meals, sit down once a month and have the kids draw pictures or work on crafts to send. Byrne suggests giving them a specific task (e.g., Grandma needs a picture for her wallet or for her fridge) to make it more meaningful for them.
For older grandchildren, have them print out articles about topics they are interested in to discuss on a video chat. While the kids create the art, parents can address and stamp multiple envelopes to be used throughout the month. Bonus, as Byrne says: “A trip to the mailbox is a great way to break up the day.”
Work on a service project together from a distance: Brainstorm to find a shared interest. For example, if grandparents and grandkids share a love of animals, they can all donate newspapers or pet supplies to a local animal shelter. Do it together virtually or meet up on your grand date and share what you each did. Take selfies of each family dropping off the supplies. This is a beautiful way to create a bond between them around a certain passion.
Preserve your virtual time together: Take screenshots of your Zoom chats or photos of the kids video chatting with their grandparents. Byrne says, “As kids grow up, they’ll see how their grandparents were committed enough to ‘be there’ virtually for them and with them.” These photos will serve as memories of your time together and capture a period in history that children will learn about in school for generations to come.
If you’ve never celebrated Grandparents Day before, this is the year to start. It falls on September 13th this year.
Send a video of your children singing “Happy Grandparents Day to you” to the tune of Happy Birthday or an e-mail with ‘Three things we love about Grandma and Grandpa.’ It’s also a great opportunity for parents to acknowledge how important their own parents or in-laws are in their children’s lives. Write them a short note or text and share your favourite memory about them as a grandparent.
This pandemic won’t last forever. Your parents and your children will both appreciate the efforts you make to help them stay connected.